Episode 25: Changing Your Thoughts

Free Guides:

Examine your Thoughts

Who Are You, Really? 12 Prompts to Create Self-Awareness

Thoughts That Build Resilience

Weekly Time Blocking Planner

Boundary Setting Cheat-Sheet

Understanding Imposter Syndrome


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Madel Mazzella:
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Kaitlyn Rapai:
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Show Notes

  • Oftentimes negative thoughts can be brought on when we dislike what we see, hear, think or remember. Focusing on them leads to a plethora of negative feelings such as stress, fear, anger, anxiety, etc. 
  • Our usual way of dealing with negative feelings is to suppress or resist them.
    • But suppressing our feelings doesn’t make them disappear. On the contrary, they gain strength and eventually surface (sometimes when we least want them to).
  • Suppressing negative thoughts looks like: overeating or snacking, binge watching TV, drinking, or whatever our favorite form of avoidance is.
  • Our habitual way of thinking can make us suffer. We often want to avoid the uncomfortable feeling in the moment without realizing we’re creating a bigger problem by imagining scenarios in our head and creating an even more negative story. But, this is not really what may even be happening in reality.

Letting Go of Negative Thoughts:

  • Dr. Wayne Dyer talks about giving up the need to control situations and outcomes. He suggests:
    • We can choose to be an observer and to surrender and allow the world and everyone in it to do as they “are ordained to do”. 
  • We need to “remind ourselves to step back and be a witness, not a protagonist” without judging the situation. It’s our ego that makes us think we can control a situation.
  • We can weather any storm by being willing to adapt to it much like the way palm trees bend in hurricane winds. 

Thoughts we can practice when there’s conflict and we want to practice letting go of our need to be right.

  • Thank you for showing me that perspective.
  • I’ve never considered that point of view – (instead of imposing our position).
  • You’re probably right.
  • I’m not sure about that. Or, I don’t really know.

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Original Music by: Matthew Dotson

Cover Art by: Nate Rapai

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