Episode 20: Toxic Teachers

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Examine your Thoughts

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Boundary Setting Cheat-Sheet

Understanding Imposter Syndrome


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Kaitlyn Rapai:
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Show Notes

  • Labeling someone as toxic is done by our thoughts. Proof of it is that someone else can probably disagree with you and find the trait you consider toxic to be something else.
  • We get to think whatever we want about any person we want, and so do they. Since we have the choice, a good question to ponder would be “Why am I choosing to think that this person is toxic?”
  • People are allowed to be who they are and so can you. Knowing this, you can free yourself from the burden and impossible task of wanting to change others. You can only change yourself and the thoughts you choose to think about yourself and others.
  • Nothing anyone does or says can affect you unless you let it (by focusing on it). We’re triggered by the meaning we assign to something that was said or done. Think of the meaning we assign as sentences, thoughts or beliefs we habitually think. What if you could reframe the action to mean something else? It doesn’t have to mean the complete opposite; this would be too unrealistic and you won’t believe it anyway. But, making a bit of space for a neutral thought could open up a possibility for a new way of thinking. One that’s more empowering and puts you in control of your thoughts. 
  • Our mentor says no one has the power to ‘infect you with their energy’ if you’re aware of your own thinking. 

Questions to help our perspective:

  • Does the thought that someone is toxic serve you?
  • Can you find the good in that person?
  • What would you say to this person if you had them in front of you?
    • Chances are sometimes we blow issues out of proportion in our heads, then we actually don’t feel nearly as negative against the person when you see them.
  • Choosing to love the person can seem or feel like a stretch, but what thought feels better in your heart? 
  • Can you find examples of how you’ve acted like the person you’re labeling as toxic? And then, can you find compassion toward that person?

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Original Music by: Matthew Dotson

Cover Art by: Nate Rapai

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