Episode 9: Self-Validation

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Madel Mazzella:
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Website: madelmazzella.com

Kaitlyn Rapai:
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TikTok: ⁠@kaitlyn_rapai_coaching⁠


Show Notes

In this episode of the podcast the hosts discuss how important it is to validate oneself instead of seeking approval externally.

If you find yourself doing this it’s important not to judge or beat yourself for it. We all do this at one point or another and depending on the circumstances. What’s important is that you’re aware if you’re seeking excessive feedback or reassurance. 

The hosts point out that when you catch yourself seeking external validation you have a great opportunity to validate yourself. Once you’re aware how you’re feeling, you understand that you have the power to make decisions, acknowledge and accept negative feelings.

When you expect or hope that others validate you, essentially you’re putting your power in someone else’s hands. Your happiness or mood is at the mercy of whoever shows you that they appreciate, acknowledge or validate you. But, what happens if they don’t give you what you seek?

You can start self-validating by making a list of your talents and accomplishments and by celebrating them. It is so important that you know yourself well so you can make decisions ahead of time if you know you’ll be in a situation where you’d normally want others’ approval.

Like anything we do, practice makes perfect. The more you practice being aware of your validation-seeking patterns, the more you’ll be onto yourself when they appear. 

It’s important to let go of the idea that you have to be knowledgeable about all the topics because you’re a teacher or that others are smarter because of X, Y or Z reasons… You’re smart in your own right and in your own area, and so is everyone else. Treat any areas you feel need improvement as a work in progress, something you can definitely work on– as opposed to a fixed weakness you can never make progress on.

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Original Music by: Matthew Dotson

Cover Art by: Nate Rapai

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